Tuesday, July 23

The Tall of Respect

Respect has diminished to such a degree in our society, and indeed in our homes, that we now need to relearn respect. Our respect gauge for God mirrors the respect we have for our family members. What image do you reflect?

Ooze with kindness and build others on the steps of your private influence. Start with your home and master the art of respect through your dialogue and demeanor.

What is dialogue? Dialogue is a verbal exchange between two or more persons. Dialogue has an impact and transforms our relationships.

What is demeanor? Your demeanor is your character, conduct, and countenance.

Do not expect fake respect from others through a discourteous spirit or curt countenance. Say what you mean without being mean. If someone does not respect you, the heart of the issue is an issue with his or her heart.


Loss of respect is loss of heart. 

Live your life respecting those undeserving. Allow the Holy Spirit to change your own heart and your own level of respect for God and His Word. This single, yet superior act 
will alone transform your world and indeed the lives under your influence. Respect comes full circle.

More often than not, what I desire the most is what I transpose the least. Rather, correction comes to the critique before a circle of correction is complete. We must judge ourselves before we can be fit judges of others.

“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” Matthew 7:3


Our home cultivates authenticity or uncovers the impostor. Remember, 

"Kindness is the oil that takes the friction out of life."

Are you tall in respect?


Deborah Choma
Corporate Trainer | Conference Speaker
Inquiry or Booking:
219-902-4243


We have an exciting Women's Workshop on August 31, where I will expand on the various elements of civility, including respect.

I look forward to serving you in the future. The Open Doors Workshop flyer is on the top right corner of this site, or available on my Business Facebook page after this link:

"The Open Doors Workshop"

Thank You!

Thursday, July 18

Our Passion Is The World's Hunger

“Our conference is God’s call to a place where our passion and the World’s hunger meet.”

Our Promise

This is the first conference for the entire North-West Indiana region. We have never offered a seminar of this caliber or content in this area.

The Lord has moved on my heart to open the doors of superior training and avail it to women on my home ground.

Our Mission

“Instilling confidence and developing women,
poised in any social situation,
is the foundation of all our instruction.”

We are very excited!

  • 3-Trainers, 65-years of industry experience
  • Transferring expertise to you; Communication, Image, Etiquette, and Health
  • Developing your skills for confident living
  • Laying your foundation for change

Success is succeeding at the right thing. Failure is succeeding at the wrong thing.

  1. The "Open Doors" Conference is for Christian Women desiring to uncover their authenticity
  2. The “Open Doors” Conference is for Women longing to heal from the hurts of the past
  3. The “Open Doors” Conference is for Women that hunger for truth and a light on their path

You will uncover the keys to unlock doors that keep Christian Women in darkness

You will learn the art of confident living; in chaos or calm, we can succeed!

Bible principles are the essence and indeed, the heartbeat of the “Open Doors” Conference and the foundation of all our instruction.

Get ready to grow and glow where you are.

God's Promise

“When I fall, I shall rise;
when I sit in darkness,
the Lord shall be a light unto me.”
Micah 7:8

Deborah Choma

Inquiries Are Welcome:
219-902-4243
opendoors.deborah@gmail.com

Wednesday, July 17

Good Manners Revival

Two Steps to Revival

Step 1. Exercise your Heart

There was a time when I knew a woman who had undergone surgery. She was unable to function for a number of weeks. I wanted so much to prepare a meal, though; we were income less for some time and our reality was very difficult. Yet the woman’s concerns conquered this judgment. Praying and believing God would bless the intent, moved to a matter of waiting on Him. Therefore, it was with great anticipation that a blessing was to follow.

Several weeks passed. I kept the idea filed, rather than swept affright by our present needs and priorities.

The day arrived! The mail carrier delivered a card and inside was $80. A colleague merely moved in a way that one would define as Divine.

I drove to the store, filled my cart, and returned home to prepare and share.

The meal met a woman struggling to the door. With a beautiful smile, she welcomed me into her sweet home. We exchanged words and her unique story unfolded. As the conversation massaged my heart, I pondered the significance of a simple meal. A verse came to mind, “How sweet are thy words unto my taste! yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth!” Psalm 119:103

God’s love is tasteful, from our mouths to our hearts.

With each spoonful, I knew the woman in this true story would experience the love of God. Through an exercised heart, God met her need as He did mine, and we both tasted a love indescribably delicious.

Exercise your heart this week. Your problem or excuse is a mountain for God to scale, not you. You will never be too busy, too bankrupt, or too broken, to meet a great need. Simply open the door to your heart. God’s Word filters the light to enable you to “see” and consider that life is about others. You are unforgettable to God. Please, do not forget others.

Step 2. Exercise your Hands

Regularly embrace serving a struggling woman, and not yourself. Do not wait for the struggle to go away. It may never leave until you walk the other way. The woman’s need may be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. The details matter little in proportion to a duty – a duty that matters greatly to God. We must nurture a sense of obligation toward helping others in a tangible way.

As a society, and indeed as a community of women, we have drifted far from our post.

Very few women make the sacrifice for someone else. If you wait for the right time, it may never arrive! The perfect time is the moment you say “Yes!” Your heart will move your hands. If I can do it, so can you!

The heart of the problem is a problem with the heart. We need each other and our world needs to see the salt seasoning all the time - good and bad, bright or dim.

If every Christian woman allowed the Word of God to penetrate their heart, then “How sweet are thy words unto my taste!” would become an endless supply for the needs of other women. “…yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth!” would be the gold standard of the new woman behind the numerous open doors.

Uncover the simple things in life that really do matter. Serving others never goes out of style.

Good manners are diminishing. You have the power to restore what lies in your heart and in reach of your fingertips.

The demise of helping women:
“One woman at a time, over time, busying her “self”

Revive and restore good manners: Kindness | Usefulness | Graciousness

We need it individually.
Our society needs it collectively.
Our next generation needs it desperately.

Deborah Choma

"Why don't you join me for a unique conference. "Open Doors" is a special event that I know will uncover many doors in your own life to living your personal best now."

Please see flyer for details, thank you.

Monday, July 8

Dumb Moves With A Smartphone

Two important questions regarding your gadgets are, how do they affect others and how have they affected your close relationships?

Why does this matter?

It matters because I think we are setting ourselves up for trouble. Trouble certainly in how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves, and our capacity for self-reflection.

We are getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other yet elsewhere connected to all the different places they want to be. People want to customize their lives; they want to go in and out of the places they go because the thing that matters the most to them is control.

There are key components to the development of our professional and personal lives. Face-to-face communication is superior to any other form of connecting and is an important element to one’s progress. Wherever possible, having eye contact and listening to those around you will open more doors to an enriched future filled with endless opportunities.

What order of importance does your Smartphone hold, in particular at home? 

"Our family comes first," or at least we verbalize such sentiment. Sadly, and in most cases, the Smartphone dominates the privacy of our homes and indeed, it controls our responses to what should be our most valuable relationships – those we call “family.”

Behind the walls of our home and across a broader field, people cannot get enough of each other but only at a distance and in amounts they can control; not too close, not too far, just right.

I have taken charge in my own life and have decided to either silence or switch my Smartphone off at home. It simply makes good sense when others are around. One has to use their discretion; there are times for that expected or important call and there are times when one is on-call. However, I pose this question: How important does it have to be for your cell phone to be the object of your attention? Do you spend more time checking texts and email than you do taking an interest in your spouse’s day, your children’s activities, or caring for the multiple responsibilities on your home front?

If a cell phone dominates your home, then priorities are under jeopardy. If your cell phone IS your priority, then I would seriously reevaluate the reasons those relationships are in place.

Focus on the moment without the distraction of ominous ringtones or the endless beeps from random text messages. Access your cell phone habits. Perhaps it's time for a healthy break. Our family deserves our full attention. Do you listen long enough to hear the hum of your habits and not your cell phone?

Five Smart Tweaks:
  1. Make it a priority to silence your cell phone in the home
  2. Engage in face-to-face conversation 
  3. Respect the privacy of your home life and have phone call and text limits; other than emergencies and opportune times, I am available between 8-5. Otherwise, calls go to voice-mail and text messages are checked at 8 a.m the next day
  4. Put your Smartphone out of sight; I enjoy the present environment without having to eyeball a Smartphone each time I enter a room
  5. Keep important calls brief and respect family time
I encourage you to place your attention where it needs to be and not necessarily where you want it to be. Our present relationships depend on the consistency and constancy of healthy and engaged interactions minus the distractions of a Smartphone.

Our future generations need the bedrock of this kind of development through the unique example of men and women, reflecting the supremacy of face-to-face relationships.


"Your family needs you to plug into their world,
much more than a Smartphone
needs fingertips to function."


Deborah Choma

Corporate Trainer | Conference Speaker