Deborah Choma

Wednesday, August 20

Poised With Power

Ten years is a long time to wait for anything. As I turn and gaze at the artwork of my unique life - I would have waited longer.

Our world awaits individual men and women of God, who despite their despair, rise from the ashes and shine God's radiance with each step.

How long have you been waiting for an answer from God?

We went to the County Fair recently. I wanted to sit with the cows and lick ice cream rather than stand in line with dozens of kids waiting to go on an insane stuck-to-a-wall upside down ride.

Our son had different plans. Standing in line was easy. He would have waited all day.

Our lives WILL have discomfort, but we must hang on tight and hang out right; walk with the right kind of people and exercise your spiritual muscles. Listen to the voice of truth and hush the lies that gush into your mind. Discrepancies corrupt good thinking.

Your talk and walk reflect your core beliefs. Don't let your tongue and toes leave a lineage of "The terrible twos."

Be committed to a good attitude and an excellent spirit. God rewards us in proportion to our all-out commitment.

God IS working through what He wants done.

Our King steps in when it will do the most good.

If you can't see ahead - pull up your socks, put on your shoes, and step out in faith. Be patient. You won't see it all, but He is in control. Now you have poise with power - His resurrection power.

"...thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly." Matthew 6:6

Plan - Pray - Trust and Obey

God is our sustainer and provider. It is a misconception to think that we provide for our needs - ourselves. Trust God daily to provide what He knows you need.

Few are willing to pay the price to be used by God in a great way. The price to be paid by any hero for God, is long-term commitment.

Christianity is not measured in years;
Christianity is measured in decades.

God's will is worth everything and you are priceless. You have a calling on your life. Tune out from the ominous sounds of self-talk and society. Embrace your God-given life!

From the Heart of Deborah Choma

The Opendoors Ministry
Christian Trainer | Conference Speaker

Tuesday, August 19

Charlotte's Scent

“I never had a trial
I wanted to have,
but I never had a trial
I wasn’t glad I had.”
Dr. Jack Hyles

Spontaneity often leads to the splendor of unplanned memories. It happened to our family this morning. The girl in me blurted out, “Let’s go for a bike ride and have prayer time in a park!”

It's soothing to have a husband that responds to sudden impulse from his wife. I'm very blessed.

We took off on our bikes to Wicker Park. It was a gorgeous day. The combination of a gentle breeze, little humidity, and perfect company, uncovered a moment in time we shall never forget. Apart from Caleb cutting in front of me and landing on my back in the grass, we enjoyed each other. In fact, my fall was soft and fun too!

We arrived and dismounted from our bikes. There, nestled amongst the grandeur-wooded trees, was a picnic table recessed away from the buzz of exercising feet.

We took a few minutes to reflect on thoughts presented from the preaching on Sunday, and then I looked up. The trees were holding hands, their thick branches overlapping with the rich green canopy stretching forever across the park. The sun flickered through pockets of little openings – beams of light hitting the ground, painting the grass with clusters of leafy shadows. Squirrels raced each other up and down thick trunks, birds working, resting, and nesting in the branches.

It was glorious and I broke down with tears.

It occurred to me after a friend had reached out with a heart rendering text, that she was not alone, and neither are we. There were no words to respond to her pain. My thoughts fell short of her God-sized need for comfort and any attempt on my part would devalue her suffering. It was best to be silent, acknowledge the text, but not respond.

With a heart that broke inside for her, tears falling and mouth quivering, I looked up and whispered, “She’s not alone...we never are. Trees surround us, tall deep-rooted timber, branches stretching across and holding hands; a canopy of splendor, cascading light, shadows splashed across the grass, like an artist with a paintbrush carefully completing the masterpiece. We’re not alone…we never are!”

Life for many is so routine and so very predictable. God has reminded me that during times of deep heartache and loneliness, we have company.

We can learn a lot by looking up. His landscape is full of lessons.

It suddenly occurred to me how the darkness of suffering is often an eclipse from the pain and an obscured perception. Living for any length of time in a languished state is lonely and tiring. However, we must look up and consider. God’s angle is very different.

We must listen to the voice of truth.

As a Believer, we are a stunning creation – a splendid tree. The leaves on our branches are green and plump in proportion to our food source. Roots grow deep when we drink from God’s well. His Word must nourish us each day or we will wither from the heat of each trial.

The sap of the Spirit runs through the Believer’s bough, and breathes life into the fruit, and indeed the surrounding atmosphere.

The light filtering through the canopy reminded me, that when we look up to God and say, “I hurt but I trust you,” it filters truth and opens our eyes to the adjoining trees overlapping our branches.

We are never alone.

There is glory in our deepest pain. Getting alone with God will sustain you. It is vital! He is our husbandman and the pain is all part of His planting and pruning.

Reach out to others during your grief. Getting alone with God will definitely revive you but you must dump the manure of your hurt at the base of a living tree.

The loneliness is often the distance created by grief and feelings of despair. It is good to grieve, but healing comes when we water and feed our souls in God’s Word.

Pencil your thoughts and present them to God.

Drink. Drink from His well and look up. Your branches connect to others. Reach out! Your pain is living and your life is producing. Let go of the fear, release the anger, and look up trusting. Your tree must be synonymous with life-giving trust.

“Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the LORD is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7-8

So many Believers’ are united by suffering. They are there to hold hands. Just reach out and share His splendor. You will flourish, even if the axe of hurt strikes you hard.

Sandalwood has the most magnificent fragrance however; you must first strike the trunk with an axe before any scent can release and permeate the forest.

How this reminds me of my own life and the tough times I have been through and perpetuate.

Without the strike from suffering, I would not reflect our sweet smelling Saviour. Without experiencing the hurt, His artisanship remains concealed.

Rise from behind the bough of brokenness otherwise your fragrance remains a mystery.

Society needs the sweetness of a testimony that lights this world. Shine where you are. Your own world needs the hope of a tried hand.

We have so much to give when we are broken but we must look up at the Son, appreciate our Maker, and the essence of who we are through Christ.

Loving you from a distance and knit at the heart. Not professing to understand your pain…just reaching out in love.

From the Heart of Deborah Choma

Friday, August 15

Designer Clothes

As a Kingdom Woman,
our designer clothes must point to "The Designer."

So much of my past was tailored to a notion of everything being just right - a good fit. But God had a design that was to fit me to a 'T.' Laboring hard at a self-made image did eventually fray.

The loose ends of our workmanship will give rise to the need of a master tailor.

Eventually, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest," became the superior thread that began to weave a purpose for my life.

Would you like to succeed? Christ reminds us to "Come to Him." Matthew 11:28

"For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." Matthew 11:30

Now dressed for success, how fitting, how much like coming home, the experience of God is.

God's will is tailor-made; it suits you and fits every curve and wrinkle. 

God's design, not a self-made life, is just right! It will fit you to a 'T.'

If at first you don't succeed, go to God. He is always successful at succeeding. A relationship with Him changes meaningless toil into spiritual productivity and purpose.

You have a designer image. You need to see it. God is the perfect fit for everyone!

There are more than a million stars in the sky, but you are one-in-a-million.

From the Heart of Deborah Choma

Corporate Trainer | Conference Speaker

Tuesday, August 12

Training Children or Teaching Difficult Men and Women?

The foundation of all instruction on this site is:

• To know God
• To learn His value system
• Expose subtle habits
• Emphasis behavioral effects

The key element to the smooth functioning of any business, family, and relationship, is respect and submission.

Society reflects just the opposite mindset; fitting into the world’s philosophy renders acceptance and progression into a humanistic system. The hub of our world’s existence wheel is “self.”

As Believers, we belong to God’s Kingdom – a completely different and supernatural system. We are loved and accepted regardless of status or stature. The hub of God’s existence wheel is “Christ.” He is our focal point.

Is God the focus in your day-to-day choices? Let's place our marriages under the microscope for a minute.

Respect between a man and a woman come through mutual regard and appreciation for each other as individuals created in God’s image. But does our verbal and non-verbal communication demonstrate this respect in our day-to-day lives?

Habits can undermine relationships, as do our subtle choices. "What’s easier on me," can be the demise of any relationship.

It’s not about what works best for us. It’s about what’s best for everyone involved.

A good question is, "Will my actions compliment or compete with my husband?"

When Caleb was born, my husband and I decided to assemble the crib at the foot of our bed. It seemed harmless at the time. Eight months later, the effects of what was right to me was being heard and felt. Caleb’s cries reminded us that a seemingly good decision had consequences on everyone involved.

Sleeping Caleb in our room was not the issue. Did I ask my husband how he felt having a baby in our bedroom and our marriage space? Yes, I said, “Darling, would you assemble the crib here? It will be easier when I nurse during the night.”

That’s not asking. That’s manipulating.

My subtle actions continued to elevate Caleb above Kelly. It was not healthy for the marriage or Caleb’s training.

It’s never too late and when Caleb was eight months old, we turned the order around.

There are many nuances to this story however; I have condensed it to a summary.

Our marriage has been filled with regulating, reinstating, and respect.

Regulating your relationships is important for the health of all parties involved.

Reinstating is aligning the relationship with God’s order and purposefully surrendering regardless of the discomfort factor.

Respect for the uniqueness of the other person; a growing respect for the desires of the other person; a growing respect and understanding of how your decisions affect the other person/s involved.

Short term and long term, the subtle choices we make affects our world and the lives of other individuals. The foundation of all good quality relationships is submission and respect, not manipulating outcomes to suit what feels the best for us.

Children need to know their place at home and in society otherwise; we could be training children to be controlling, manipulating, and difficult men and women.

Did you ever see those pictures where something was "Out of order?" It may have been an odd hanging on a wall, the dog's tail was missing, or there were no hands on the clock. The closer you looked, the more stuff appeared until finally your list of "What's odd" was completed.

I want God to show me the "Out of order" stuff before others see the obvious and I don't.

We are all a work in progress and it's never too late to turn things around.

"Thus saith the LORD of hosts; Consider your ways." Haggai 1:7

Ask God to turn the inside of your heart outwards and to show, as only He can, the hidden things of your heart that work against your marriage, and indeed affect your children's contribution to society and their ultimate condition.


We entreat you for direction through our lives. In this room and theses moment, minister to each heart. Shine your wisdom and truth. Prioritize the areas that need urgent attention. We ask for open, obedient hearts and guidance to begin living our God-given opportunities. Speak to us, Lord. We have needs. We are in need of your direction – Amen.

From the Heart of Deborah Choma